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…...and here is the answer.

This is dedicated to my friend - whom I call the 'Monday Morning Angel' . Someone, who has an amazing inquisitiveness, and somehow, always nailed me with the 'right' question. Hold the answer please!….that's the biggest problem. We seem to have answers for every thing…. (well almost), and not just one answer, but multiple answers. The head pounds, the mind works overtime, goes full throttle on the fertile thought, and every single second we seem to be ‘providing’ ourselves with more and more answers!. Answers! Answers! Answers! Somewhere deep in the still found calmness of the ‘original’ self, is the silent knock – What is the question for which all these answers are being made? Adrift, lost and pounded by so many answers (ala solutions), what is THAT SINGLE QUESTION that defines ‘me’? What is THAT SINGLE QUESTION that makes us churn every available brain power to come with a new answer? What is THAT SINGLE QUESTION that controls the fulcrum of every thought? Every

Brand Fatigue in Relationships

This is dedicated to my dear friend – Arjun – Thanks pal "It's like [being] a freighter at sea - it takes a little while to know that you're in trouble and then to turn the beast around." So says Karl Moore, professor of marketing strategy at the Faculty of Management, McGill University Hold on for a minute! Brand fatigue is a Marketing / Strategy term, what has it got to do with ‘Relationships?”. Well let me take you through the “brand” ride. What exactly is Brand Fatigue? – blah..blah..blah.. and the answer I remember copying from who ever sitting before me in my Marketing Exam (oh, I was the first guy in the row ..whatever) – everyone has some brand that they cherish, wanted to always sport or own the brand, use it so long, and irrespective of the fact that there is no other to replace, you just get tired and.. voila you switch brands. How close does this come to us, looking at relationships!There is that one special person you cherish, admire so much, that you end

The 'right' kiss

Onur Gunturkun (A German researcher,), after spying on kissing couples in US, Germany and Turkey, found that when couples kissing, 65% tilt their head to the right, while 35% went left. Here is the explanation from Onur Gunturkun: before born, we as fetuses in the womb begin to tilt heads, usually to the right. Most of us the grow to favor the right hand, foot, eye and ear. He found that most couples lean to the right when kissing; he interpreted this as evidence of genetic asymmetries of motor and sensory functions. However, he also noted that cultural identity affects the way that couples kissed. Hunturkun's findings give more insight into kissing's mysterious parents, yet we are still left at an uncomfortable place. Most couples lean right, which implies a genetic pre-disposition for kissing to the right. However, whatever codes for this asymmetry probably codes for all motor functions (e.g. right handedness); kissing just happen fall under its jurisdiction. Hunturkun also m

At the peak of Achievement

That’s one state- every soul on earth longs to achieve or even better subsist in that state. What’s so much about achievement? – be it a professional goal like getting the most coveted job in the Market, or be it making a billion bucks, or sometimes, just winning over the heart of the most resistant person, or just about being at a personal sense of ease with the self, and breathe a deep sigh and say – Yes I did it – and enjoy the warm feeling in the blood of adrenalin pumping! I guess, it all starts with a sense of void – somewhere deep within the realms of heart, cerebellum and ambition, an absolute sense of void - a void ness that has restricted one from being accepted as they are – which quickly in a nano second translates, that somewhere you are not able to come with terms with yourself – “I, Me, Myself” cannot accept myself as is, and hence start defining parameters of acceptance levels - hence the start of a race to achieve something. Once this sense of achievement sets in, ther

Of Wisdom & Humility

This is an exact reprint of the article by Dr.Ravi Zacharias - An article that I really Liked. There is a story told about the one-time heavyweight boxing champion, Muhammad Ali. Ali was flying to one of his engagements, and during the flight the aircraft ran into foul weather. Moderate turbulence began to toss the plane about. All nervous fliers well know that when a pilot signals “moderate turbulence,” he is implying, “If you have any religious beliefs, it is time to start expressing them.” The passengers were instructed to fasten their seatbelts immediately, and all complied but Ali. So the flight attendant approached him and requested that he observe the captain’s order, only to hear Ali audaciously respond, “Superman don’t need no seatbelt.” The flight attendant did not miss a beat and replied, “Superman don’t need no airplane either!” I draw attention to that story because I would like to consider the larger context in which many of us find ourselves. Unquestionably, we live in a

Dearth for leadership

What is it that makes Leadership so Critical to an organization? Why does it demand so much importance and why does the dictum of business so delicately hang on one or a couple of peoples’ leadership skills? Over the past 8-10 months, these questions have been taking a bulk share in my lil head, and managed to grey out a lil more of my remaining black hair. Let’s define this leader specimen… “Specimen” for they cannot be a species and are rare to find. Apart from the plethora of various leadership definitions from the out-right harassed Dilbert to the BIG Gurus of Management, one common thread among all their definitions is - A leader should be made to sustain – sustain him/herself against all odds, exceed and rule over his normal demands of human life, and then be able to have still extra stuff left to pass on to team, businesses..etc..etc… that’s quite a demanding thing. At this time, I am still not classifying whether, the leader is good – Good or Bad, the leader still has to be (a

It's now finally official.........

Well, I never thought that the timing would be this new year’s night… well..let me not jump the gun.. Lots of you should have always wondered, ah this Guy … no Girl Friend…I mpossible…and blah blah… and Dear Arjun, quite many a times seriously contemplated to give me lectures on, why I should have a relationship… girl friend..but somewhere he gave me the benefit of doubt..may be John has a GF but is not willing to share…and hmm…. Sarbani, who always wondered that this Fatso, ever flirting and ogling at all the petite girls, some how restrains himself from going further…may be he is after all a nice good guy, but have some raging hormones… It’s all happened this way, and well – I am happy …infact…bubling with that amazing feeling…. Hmmm.. Prakash, my old pal hosted a new year night party at his house, and all the friends of yester years came along…..Big Camp fire, lots of music, had our own DJ (again old pal)…and ..I arrived there at a lil after mid night after the church service… Since